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Critical Voice? How To Stop Your Monkey Mind

Thursday, May 29th, 2008

Bonnie McFarland

“That will never work.” “What is wrong with you?” “Who do you think you are?” “That’s a stupid idea.”

If a friend talked to you this way you probably wouldn’t be friends for long. Surprisingly, though, most people do have someone who talks to them like this. It’s their Monkey Mind!

Monkey Mind is that inner voice jabbering away at you, criticizing, judging, blaming, doubting, and worrying. Everyone has some Monkey Mind chatter going on. It’s part of being human. In fact, experts say that of our 25,000 to 60,000 thoughts a day, 90% of them are critical and the majority of these critical thoughts are aimed at ourselves.

The critical voice of Monkey Mind is often the biggest obstacle you face in creating a happy, fulfilling life. This kind of commentary droning on in your head can drain your energy and either slow you down or completely stop you from knowing and creating what you truly want in life. Besides that, it’s no fun!

If you are limited by and suffering with your Monkey Mind, wouldn’t you love to stop it or at least turn down its volume? But how?

WHAT DOESN’T WORK

There are three typical responses to Monkey Mind: you’re not even aware of it talking (which may mean it’s running your life without you realizing it), you believe and agree with what it’s saying, or you argue with it.

Unfortunately, none of these responses works. These have you either following Monkey Mind’s dictates or allowing it to strengthen its power as you focus your attention on it.

WHAT DOES WORK

Over my life I have had a very active and quite mean Monkey Mind. For many years I tried and tried to get out from underneath it without much success.

Five years ago, I finally learned a strategy that helped. Using this approach I’ve had about a 90% reduction in that critical chatter. Monkey Mind isn’t completely gone but its frequency and intensity are vastly reduced. This created a profound, positive difference in my life: Monkey Mind doesn’t run my life anymore and that frees me to be calmer, clearer, and happier.

What worked for me? Shifting my attention away from Monkey Mind and towards what lights me up. Yes, it’s that simple although I understand it’s not always easy.

When I notice Monkey Mind is talking I work to shift my attention as quickly as I can. I might take a few minutes to walk near the water, call a friend to chat, or read a good book — all things that light me up. If Monkey Mind persists I need to out-persist it by continuing to think about and do what lights me up.

My clients have also found this to be a very powerful, effective approach. The more they focus on and shift their attention to what lights them up, the more they are able to turn down the volume on Monkey Mind.

The way to ease Monkey Mind’s grip on you and your life is to gently, steadily, and persistently shift your attention away from what it is saying and towards what lights you up.

IN YOUR LIFE

If you’d like to turn down the volume on your Monkey Mind, experiment with this strategy.

1) Create a “Lights List.” What makes you smile just thinking of it? What increases your energy? What do you love? What are a few “lights on” things that are quick and easy for you to do?

2) When you notice Monkey Mind, acknowledge it. Then choose something from your “Lights List” to think about or do. Keep doing this until Monkey Mind is out of the driver’s seat and you’re back running your own life.

The key to this simple strategy is to gently persist, focusing on what lights you up until you have loosened Monkey Mind’s grip on you.

May you turn down the volume on Monkey Mind so you can create more of what you truly want in life.

Enjoy!

Bonnie McFarland works with women at midlife who are bored, stuck, or restless and wondering what to do with the rest of their lives. Visit www.labellavia.com for her free e-book and ezine to create more pleasure, passion, and purpose in your life.

Passion And Performance Go Hand In Hand

Wednesday, May 28th, 2008

Ronnie Nijmeh

Have you ever wondered why some people seem to stand out in life while others simply blend in? What is the difference between these two groups of people?

Well, it all comes down to passion. When you are passionate about what you do, this passion fuels every aspect of your life, including your performance at work and at play.

Passion affirmations can help you remember why it’s important to remain passionate about everything that you do. If you become complacent in life, your performance suffers and your success isn’t what it could be. Through free positive affirmations you really can live a more passionate, positive life.

Continue to Tap Into Your Passion

Even the most passionate people find themselves in a rut from time to time, but how can you keep going? How can you continue to push forward and continue to stand out in the crowd?

Well, the most successful people out there use positive affirmations multiple times a day to stay focused and passionate. You, too, can use affirmations in your life and learn how to tap into your passion and use it to your advantage.

What are Passion Affirmations?

Passion affirmations are statements that describe what you want to be, feel, or how you want to behave. It could be something as simple as, “My passion to be successful is my driving force.”

It seems simple, but when you repeat this to yourself and believe it, it has a power all its own. By tapping into this positive internal dialog and believing in the words, you will move further with intense vigor and momentum. Many of us unknowingly have a negative dialog going on in our heads and it works against us.

When you use passion affirmations you can harness all of your passion and you can use it to move you forward, allowing you to put your best foot forward at every turn. It sounds too good to be true, but what you are doing is re-training your brain to always think positive instead of negative.

Passion is a big part of being successful and though it is difficult to be passionate about everything in life, when you remind yourself of the benefits and purpose of living a passionate life, it becomes easier with time. After all, practice makes perfect!

Positive affirmations may not come naturally to you. In fact, those that can benefit from free positive affirmations the most are usually those that have a very negative inner dialog. It’ll take some practice to insert these positive thoughts about passion and performance where negative ones used to run rampant, but when you do this for awhile it will become second nature.

When your free positive affirmations ingrained, you will soon find that your passion for life is at an all time high and your performance in every aspect of your life is better than ever before. You really can be one of those people that stand out. All you have to do is simply change your inner dialog, who knew it could be so easy?

Ronnie Nijmeh is the Chief Inspiration Officer at ACQYR.com, a motivational website with a list of positive affirmations, motivational articles, and free wallpaper downloads. Get instant inspirations right now…

How To Deal With A Lack Of Passion In Your Life

Wednesday, May 28th, 2008

Ronnie Nijmeh

Do you get up most mornings and feel instantly grumpy about another boring day in the same boring job? Do you rarely have something to look forward to or get excited about? Has it been a long time since you felt passionate about something?

When you lack passion, you lack a full life. You deserve better! You don’t have to continue living in a passionless life, after all, it’s a choice you make. You really can turn it all around with the use of some very simple passion affirmations.

Passion, Affirmations, and Your Life

Passion is a big part of feeling motivated and being excited about your life. When you are excited about life you are going to do a better job, be a better friend, be more productive, and simply enjoy every moment more. Life is never perfect, but when you are passionate about life, even the tough moments are made more tolerable. You can learn to live this way when you incorporate passion affirmations into your life.

Passion affirmations can start as an intense desire. You can articulate your desire for passion in your life through a statement that describes how you would like to feel, act, or behave. Then you would repeat this statement - or affirmation - to yourself every day or during the times when you are feeling particularly passionless. When you believe in these affirmations, it can help you develop passion where there once was none, and it can boost your energy if you are feeling down on yourself.

Replace the Negative with Positive Instantly

It sounds too good to be true, but affirmations are all about positive thinking. You are replacing negative thoughts with positive ones when you remind yourself how important passion is and that you have so much to be passionate about. Believing this and repeating affirmation statements to yourself as often as needed will allow you to become a more passionate person overall. When you believe that you have things to be excited about, you’ll feel more passionate, and as a result you will be happier and all things in your life will come to you much more easily.

Dealing with a lack of passion in your life is not something that you can ignore. Using the power of affirmations will help you see what life could be like and it is a simple way to start on the road to a more impassioned life. Each person’s passion affirmations may be different based on their life and their experience, but remember that this is something that must be positive! The goal is to lift your spirits and build momentum fast, and you can only do that with positive affirmations. It’s like motivation supercharged!

Remember that though you may be experiencing a life with little passion that it doesn’t have to stay this way. You can improve your life, all you have to do is incorporate a couple passion affirmations into your life. You may very well be surprised at how simple it is to start living and enjoying a healthier, happier life!

Ronnie Nijmeh is an accomplished author, speaker and coach. He has been a featured expert on national television, radio, and print. Ronnie is the president and founder of ACQYR.com, an inspirational resource with free wallpaper downloads, affirmations, inspirational articles and much more. Learn more about ACQYR’s positive affirmations.

Balancing Happiness With Being A Perfectionist

Wednesday, May 28th, 2008

Ronnie Nijmeh

Being a perfectionist is hard work because you want everything to be just so. While many people believe that being a perfectionist is a good thing, it can take a toll on your life and you need to learn how to balance the need for things to be perfect with happiness. You need to be able to enjoy life and learn how to pick your battles without sweating every detail of everything, everyday.

Positive affirmations for perfectionism can help you learn how to balance your need for things to be just so with the happiness that you should be enjoying in your life.

Positive Affirmations Can Change Your Life

When you are a perfectionist you spend a lot of time worrying about things that you cannot change or being angry with yourself for things that you should not at all be angry or frustrated with. You can live a more balanced life, you just need to learn how to let the small things go and be a little more forgiving of yourself and those around you. When you incorporate affirmations to deal with the perfectionism into your life, you’ll find that you will reduce the amount of stress and you may even be able to enjoy the small moments that you would have overlooked before.

How do positive affirmations work? It’s simple really, so simple that you may have a hard time believing that this is something that will work for you. Affirmations are simple statements that summarize the way you want to feel or behave about something. When you repeat these “perfectionism” affirmations every day you, will be strengthening your belief system and you will be making it happen on a conscious and sub-conscious level.

Your perfectionism affirmations may be as simple as, “My happiness stems from my experiences, my family and me. Everyone and everything is perfect in its own way.” which simply reminds you that you can be happy without everything being absolutely perfect all of the time.

This seems like a simple statement - and it is - but it helps you change your inner dialog one thought process at a time. Instead of thinking, “This has to be just right before I can relax,” you can replace it with a positive thought. When you constantly replace negativity with free positive affirmations, you will slowly be changing your outlook on life and you will realize that you are not at all the perfectionist that you once were. Perfectionism is relative and can stifle progress and growth.

What can positive affirmations do for you? They can help you enjoy your life more because you are not caught up in making every little detail perfect. You’ll be relaxed, you’ll enjoy your time more, and the people around you will enjoy being around you more, as well. Perfectionism affirmations really do work and though it seems simple, it can help you balance perfectionism with happiness.

Wondering when you should start using perfectionism affirmations? How about now? It’s never too soon to start making positive changes to your life, so what are you waiting for? You can make up your own affirmations that really speak to your heart and your mind or you can find positive affirmations that work, too.

Ronnie Nijmeh is an accomplished author, speaker and coach. He is the president and founder of ACQYR.com, an inspirational resource where you can download free wallpapers, powerful affirmations, inspirational articles and much more. You can visit his website for a vast library of positive affirmations.

Good Communications Skills Can Help You Succeed In Life

Wednesday, May 28th, 2008

Ronnie Nijmeh

When you know how to communicate effectively, you will have an easier time getting through life. You will be able to better express yourself and even understand those that you deal with on a regular basis. Many people underestimate the importance of communication skills in all aspects of their life and they pay the price in the way of broken relationships, inability to succeed at work, and inability to form close or lasting relationships.

Good communication skills are a must if you want to enjoy life and the people around you to the fullest extent. Developing these skills and putting it to work is as simple as incorporating positive affirmations into your life.

Using Affirmations to Help Develop Good Communication

It can be tempting to go through life simply communicating the way you want to and not giving much thought to what other people are thinking, feeling, or trying to get across to you. But of course, that doesn’t get you very far. By using positive affirmations you can learn to listen to other people, value what they say, and even be more respected and heard as a result.

Affirmations are very easy to incorporate into your life. There are many situations every day where you could utilize better communication skills. Instead of turning a deaf ear to those that are talking to you at work or at home, use affirmations to encourage you to engage in conversations and take a deeper interest in what is being said. When you use positive affirmations for communication skills - such as, “Everyone in my life has words that have value and meaning” - you will be able to look at your interactions with others in a much more positive light.

Develop Powerful, Positive Relationships By Using the Power of Affirmations

Using free positive affirmations such as the above will really help you develop relationships and communicate much more effectively. Every time you are about to dismiss what someone is saying or simply not pay attention, you can use this positive statement to encourage yourself to listen and actually communicate in a respectful manner.

You will find that the people in your life actually have a lot of great things to say that you may have missed out on before. As a result you may be able to forge closer bonds to those that you work and live with, and who doesn’t want that?

When you use free positive affirmations to help you develop or at least utilize good communication skills your life will change for the better. You may find that it requires you to slow down a bit, but the knowledge and relationships that you will develop as a result will be worth it.

Good communication skills are priceless and even if you don’t have them now, or if you choose not to use them, you can learn to slow down and communicate with the help of positive affirmations. Your life will be better as a result and even though it may seem tedious in the beginning, learning to communicate effectively will have untold benefits in the future.

Ronnie Nijmeh is the president and founder of ACQYR.com - an inspirational resource where you can download free wallpapers, motivational articles, and inspirational affirmations. Ronnie has been a featured expert on national television, radio, and print. You can read more of his positive affirmations at ACQYR.com.

Dealing With Conflict In A Positive Way

Wednesday, May 28th, 2008

Ronnie Nijmeh

It doesn’t matter how nice of a person you are or if you have the best intentions in the world, you are going to encounter conflict in your life. It’s just a fact of life! You can let conflict wear you down, make you feel bad, and even make you feel fearful, but you don’t have to go this route.

You can choose to deal with conflict in the most positive and constructive way. It may be tempting to lash out and be cruel or say things that you don’t necessarily mean, but this will only bring you down further. It can be a challenge to deal with conflict in a positive way, but it’s a challenge worth taking. The challenge will be easier when you incorporate the power of positive affirmations into your life.

Using Positive Affirmations to Resolve Conflicts Before They Happen

Positive affirmations are believable statements about the way you would like to act, feel, or respond in conflict situations. Affirmations don’t have to be long or convoluted, instead it can be something as simple as “I let go of angry feelings.”

When you look at conflict in this manner you will be able to diffuse the negative thoughts in your head that often cause you to lash out at the person that you are having a conflict with, which may end up having lasting consequences and may even lead to the dissolution of the relationship.

Positive affirmations are easy to begin implementing in your life. You can take advantage of free positive affirmations or you can create your own based on what you believe and the changes that you need to make in your life. Remember, you need to believe in the conflict affirmations for them to have the full power that they can have.

Just saying some words to yourself will not have any lasting impact, so choose free positive affirmations that really speak to you, that you believe in, and that you are willing to implement into your daily routine. When you do this, the changes will more likely be permanent.

Using affirmations to help with conflict resolution is really simple. When you are involved in a conflict or you know that a conflict may arise because of a difference in opinion, repeat the affirmation in your mind to help you stay calm and focused on the situation, not on attacking the person. This is simply replacing negative thoughts with positive ones, which will be reflected in your more positive handling of the situation.

Affirmations really do work and you will be pleased with the way in which you are often able to diffuse conflict and even come to an agreement about something, which may not have happened previously.

Free positive affirmations are not hard to come by and they can be used by anyone. Whether you need help dealing with conflict in just one area of your life or all of them, you can benefit by using them csontantly. Conflicts can be handled in a positive way; you simply have to adequately equip yourself to make it happen. After using positive affirmations for a time it will become second nature and your life will be better for it.

Ronnie Nijmeh is the Chief Inspiration Officer at ACQYR.com, a motivational website with a growing list of affirmations, motivational articles, and free desktop wallpapers. Learn how you can get inspired today!

Some Tips To Lead A “Theft Free Life”

Wednesday, May 28th, 2008

Puripong Koomsin

Today, there may be no one who is not using internet to derive the required information. However, there may also be no one who may not be aware of the term

Coming To Your Own Spiritual Awakening

Wednesday, May 28th, 2008

Deon Plessis

Spiritual awakening refers to soul awakening, self-development, self-transformation, leading a balanced and integrated life, leading an internally joyous life, and leading a spiritual life.

In one sense, spiritual awakening is ingrained as the by default universal purpose in the DNA of each of us. And we are already undergoing spiritual transformation

Simple Tips To Improve Your Quality Of Life

Tuesday, May 27th, 2008

Candace Czarny

According to the guiding principles of Feng Shui, if you improve your external environment you can improve your life and attitude. The purpose of Feng Shui is to teach you how to reconsider your relationship to the objects in your space. In doing so, you will learn to create an area that is arranged in harmony and balance, allowing positive energy to flow freely and unimpeded. If you harness the fundamentals of Feng Shui you can change your approach to business, or how you interact with friends and family. In fact, Feng Shui can aid you in obtaining a little extra lift in any sector of your life requiring improvement.

The techniques used by Feng Shui are varied and, generally very simple. In adopting a few practical Feng Shui tips, you will, within a few minutes, improve your office or home environment. As you become familiar with the basics of Feng Shui, you will be able to evaluate any room in minutes seeing immediately where problems lie. The process will help you locate and discard or conceal indications of problems such as pointed edges, gloomy corners, or bad furniture placement. These block positive energy inhibit your life from moving forwards as freely as it should. Utilizing Feng Shui, allows you to take substantial, physical steps towards implementing a more even voyage on your life

Taking Control - Freedom From Tyranny

Tuesday, May 27th, 2008

Robert A. Meyer

We live in a society where many courses of action are open to the individual